Relationship Therapy · Virtual and In-Person Session · Rochester, NY · New York State
Intimacy problems are rarely about sex.
When the physical connection in a relationship breaks down, it's almost always a symptom of something happening emotionally. Distance. Disconnection. Something unspoken that's been sitting between two people for too long. I'm a certified sex therapist with 25 years of experience — and I approach this work the same way I approach everything: by going underneath the surface to where the real issue lives.
Call or text 585.204.0102 to setup your free 15 minute phone consultation
Email: nicolecrump@moderntherapyservices.com
This is for you if
You and your partner want different things sexually and don't know how to talk about it
Intimacy has quietly disappeared and you're not sure how it happened or how to get the spark back
Past experiences are affecting how you show up in your relationship today
You feel shame, anxiety, or confusion around sex that you've never said out loud
Infidelity has broken the physical and emotional trust between you
Life changes — postpartum, perimenopause, menopause, medical issues — have shifted your intimate life
“When we feel emotionally disconnected, our sexual connection suffers too.”
Talk therapy. Nothing more.
Many people hesitate to reach out because they don't know what to expect with sex therapy. Sex therapy is talk therapy. There is no physical contact, sex positive exercises provided for the comforts of your bedroom. What there is: an honest, completely judgment-free space to say the things you've never been able to say out loud your sexual relationship transform into a deeply emotionally connecting experience for you and your partners.
I've been doing this work for a long time. There is nothing you could bring into this room that I haven't heard before. And there is nothing that would change how I see you.
I go to where the disconnect actually lives.
Sexual concerns don't exist in isolation. They are almost always connected to how safe someone feels emotionally — with their partner, and with themselves. My work as a sex therapist is grounded in understanding that connection is the foundation.
I look at the emotional patterns, the relationship history, the beliefs someone carries about themselves and about intimacy. Then we work from there — not on scripts or techniques, but on the actual root of what's happening.
The goal is not just a better sex life. It's a more honest, more connected relationship with yourself and with your partners.
Every situation is different. I am here to help you with yours.
Mismatched Desire
When one partner wants more or less but struggles with how to discuss with their partner.
Sexual Shame & Anxiety
Releasing what you were taught to feel about your body and your desire.
Life Stage Changes
Postpartum, menopause, medical conditions — and what they do to intimacy.
Past Trauma
When earlier experiences are shaping how you feel about intimacy and your sex life today.
Identity & Sexual Expression
Exploring who you are — including kink, non-monogamy, and sexual identity — without judgment.
Sexless Relationships
Understanding how you got here — and whether you want to find your way back.
Intimacy After Infidelity
Rebuilding physical and emotional trust after betrayal.
Performance Concerns
Anxiety that shows up sexually — creating preformance issues.
"You don't have to be embarrassed. You just have to be willing to be honest. I'll help you from there."
— Nicole Crump, LCSW-R · Sex Therapist
The hardest part is saying it out loud for the first time.
A free 15-minute consultation. Completely confidential. No pressure, no judgment. Just a conversation to see if I'm the right person to help.
In person in Rochester, NY · Telehealth across New York State · 585.204.0102