GETTING THE MOST OUT OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING! 02/10/2016 You are considering marriage therapy, now what? Many people think all they have to do is show up and their marriage will get better. However, therapy is a commitment; not just a financial commitment but commitment to your spouse and yourself. The commitment is a pledge acknowledging: I will reinvest in my relationship, my partner, move pass my comfort zone and be vulnerable with my partner and myself. I will look inside myself to test assumptions, attitudes (I have toward my partner and our
You are considering marriage therapy, now what? Many people think all they have to do is show up and their marriage will get better. However, therapy is a commitment; not just a financial commitment but commitment to your spouse and yourself. The commitment is a pledge acknowledging: I will reinvest in my relationship, my partner, move pass my comfort zone and be vulnerable with my partner and myself. I will look inside myself to test assumptions, attitudes (I have toward my partner and our
NUMBER ONE MARITAL ISSUE: COMMUNICATON 01/21/2016 One of the top reasons couples call for couples counseling/marriage counseling is for communication. I tell people, communication is not the issue, you both know how to communicate. The issue is, you don't know how to talk to each other so the other person understands what you are trying to say. After years of the same fight, disappointments, and frustrations, we slowly shut down, close ourselves off. And tell ourselves "something is wrong with the other person, they don't know me" or "I am
One of the top reasons couples call for couples counseling/marriage counseling is for communication. I tell people, communication is not the issue, you both know how to communicate. The issue is, you don't know how to talk to each other so the other person understands what you are trying to say. After years of the same fight, disappointments, and frustrations, we slowly shut down, close ourselves off. And tell ourselves "something is wrong with the other person, they don't know me" or "I am
BEING VULNERABLE WITH COMMUNICATION 01/06/2016 Do you find yourself wondering, does he/she really understand me? Why do they always seem to be mad or defensive when I share my thoughts and opinions. One of the biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply. Next time you are having a conversation with someone: Try focusing on the message the person is trying to tell you Maintain eye contact Listen with the intent of having a connection with the other person Summarize what you heard the other
Do you find yourself wondering, does he/she really understand me? Why do they always seem to be mad or defensive when I share my thoughts and opinions. One of the biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply. Next time you are having a conversation with someone: Try focusing on the message the person is trying to tell you Maintain eye contact Listen with the intent of having a connection with the other person Summarize what you heard the other
